Happy new year! Do you have a love-hate relationship with resolutions?! If so, you’re not alone. We all know that a huge percentage of them ‘fail’ – anywhere from 80-92% depending on who you listen to…but what we don’t often think about is the 8-20% that DO get fulfilled.
So what’s different for those special people? Whether they’re aware of it or not, those who succeed are actually going beyond resolutions, to something much deeper.
They have moved from ‘goals’ to ‘intentions’.
A goal might be ‘to lose xyz lbs in weight’. An intention may be ‘to choose healthy options xyz% of the time’.
Intentions involve shifting from a goals-based ‘success’ or ‘failure’ mentality, to moving towards a desired outcome that’s based on what you VALUE.
When clients come to me because they’ve failed to reach their goals (S-M-A-R-T as they may have been!) I invite them to think about the way they behave as a parent, family member or friend.Take a moment and do the same!
Whilst you may set goals in these areas, you’re probably more likely to have an unvoiced ‘intention’ e.g. to be a kind parent, loving family member or supportive friend. In the area of relationships, it’s easy to realise that you’re (both) human, so setting out to reach an intention 100% of the time may not be achievable (we all have days where we’re tired, or pushed to our limits). But just because we lost our patience with our loved one today, it doesn’t mean we wake up tomorrow thinking, ‘I messed up, I’m a failure, there’s no point I might as well give up!” No, instead the intention starts afresh each day. In other words, we are much more likely to be kind to ourselves, and don’t beat ourselves up for having a bad day (most of the time anyway!).
What often isn’t voiced is that you’re actually in a relationship with your health, too. Whether that’s your diabetes or your body size, you are relating to it daily, and making decisions based on your thoughts and feelings about it.
So if resolutions feel draining to you, I invite you to try on making an ‘intention’ this year. What’s the one intention you’d like to make when it comes to your health for the months ahead? Thinking about your daily life, what will take you off track, and what can you put in place to help you?
If you’ve tried traditional approaches to your health in the past, perhaps a mind-body approach will serve you well this year. If so, I’d love to support you with my ‘Mind Body’ programmes, which you can join today for just £7, and cancel any time you choose.
If you’re living with any type of diabetes and are struggling with the ‘non-medical’ aspects of managing – like feeling burnt out, lacking motivation, feeling stressed or fearful, please check out my ‘Diabetes Mind & Body’ Programme by clicking here.
If weight loss is your goal this year, you’re invited to join me in my ‘Eating Blueprint’ programme, which supports you with the mind-body tools to reach a healthy weight for life, learn more by clicking here.
They work well as stand alone programmes and can also complement other ‘traditional’ approaches you may be using.
Every decision you make when it comes to your health starts with your thoughts and feelings, so let 2018 be the year that you get help to choose the thoughts and feelings that will lead to the best possible outcome for you and your health. I can’t wait to be supporting you very soon!